Daily Prompt today is this – You need to make a major change in your life. Do you make it all at once, cold turkey style, or incrementally? 

I have had a great deal of change in the last two years of my life.  Because those changes deeply affected my life, they had to be well planned and contain a great deal of thought.

The first was the journey to lose weight.  I didn’t want a quick-fix fad diet that would guarantee losing 10 pounds in 3 days, I wanted a lifestyle change and I wanted to be healthy.  With a great deal of effort, I shifted my focus from ‘living to eat’ to ‘eating to live’ and it was worth doing it incrementally.  I lost 50 pounds and have kept it off.  Had I done the quick fix diet, I’m certain I not only would have gained the weight back, but increased my weight by a few more pounds.

The second major change was my divorce.  I had slowly become a person I was never meant to be.  I was drowning in a sea of bitterness and anger and those waves threatened to take any air that possibly remained in my lungs.  The decision to end my marriage was a monumental change in my existence, and after many failed attempts at fixing that relationship, I had to admit that it was beyond repair.  I left the broken pieces behind and slowly began rebuilding my life and rediscovering the happy person I once was.

Both of those changes deserved the time spent to follow through appropriately and go through the proper stages.  I may have over-thought both of them for a while, but in the end, I am where I need to be.

16 thoughts on “Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes

  1. Congratulations on losing 50 pounds and keeping it off! You should be proud. Having worked in a domestic relations law firm for 18 years, I know how difficult divorce can be. It sounds like you’re in a good place now. I’m happy for you. 🙂

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  3. These two major things have brought you to the place you are now – and I really like that place 😉 Kudos to you for losing 50 pounds and keeping it off (amazing and inspiring!) 😀

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  5. Congrats on the 50lbs that is indeed a fantastic achievement. I personally have the willpower of a alcoholic in a brewery so whether I try the jump in all at once or the incremental method it is often doomed to failure.

    I need to lose a little weight too, at least 28lb I would say, but I love food (and wine and spirits and chocolate and…) well you know what I mean… the sweet stuff like choc I could give up but my food uh uh, cant do it (this is home cooked recipes from scratch by the way, not salt laden ready meals)

    • Well then, you’re already ahead of the game. Home cooked meals with natural ingredients are the way to go. I didn’t really “diet”, I just stopped eating processed foods and the rest is history. I will never cut out the wine.

      • Thank you, you have given me hope :D… yeah I love cooking stuff up, I need a recipe books for sure, but I have plenty of those too lol.

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  7. I like to rip it off like a band-aid. Divorce? Mine took seven days. I kid you not. We had a fight on a Friday. We looked at each other, calmly said, “This is over,” and nodded in agreement. The next Monday I went apartment hunting and she conjured a paralegal. Wednesday we signed the papers. On Friday I got the keys to my apartment and a judge made the thing final. Seven days.

    Like you I’m all about minimizing the processed foods. I’m also running my diet like a band-aid, losing over 7% of total body weight in 28 days so far. I’m changing my relationship with food and plan to maintain a lot of those changes for the rest of my life. And I’m looking forward to wine.

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