“Each relationship nurtures a strength or a weakness within you.” ~ Michael Murdock
Have you ever had that moment? The moment when you hear a quote and it sums up an entire period of time in your life that you had yet to define? I just had a moment very reminiscent of that.
My marriage was a great learning tool in the school of my life. I do not hold any ill-will towards my ex-husband but there were moments early in the marriage that I knew our relationship could be the recipe for disaster. I allowed myself to ignore those blatant warning signs, took the wrong turn and careened along the highway of our marriage at full speed. The bumps in the road got worse as the journey continued. Soon, I couldn’t even navigate the straight stretches of the journey without getting dizzy. It was then I realized I was on the wrong road.
Everything about our time together nurtured my weaknesses. It became easier, as time went on, to not confront those weaknesses and keep some peace in the house. After several months of pulling in my head and playing “turtle” I began to realize some very important things, not only about him but, about myself.
After spending a lifetime trying to “fix” the broken people in my life, I succumbed to the fact that I couldn’t fix them. My ex-husband and the roller coaster of our marriage made me realize that. This relationship which flagrantly displayed my weakness in the past now nurtured my personal strength. When I finally awakened to that reality, once that awareness had seeped into my brain, my resolve was filled with a growing sense of power.
I took that power and changed my situation, and my life. That relationship which initially nurtured my weakness came full circle and devoted its influence to my strength. I would never have fully appreciated that strength had I not been weak at that fork in the road.