Daily Prompt today is this – You need to make a major change in your life. Do you make it all at once, cold turkey style, or incrementally?
I have had a great deal of change in the last two years of my life. Because those changes deeply affected my life, they had to be well planned and contain a great deal of thought.
The first was the journey to lose weight. I didn’t want a quick-fix fad diet that would guarantee losing 10 pounds in 3 days, I wanted a lifestyle change and I wanted to be healthy. With a great deal of effort, I shifted my focus from ‘living to eat’ to ‘eating to live’ and it was worth doing it incrementally. I lost 50 pounds and have kept it off. Had I done the quick fix diet, I’m certain I not only would have gained the weight back, but increased my weight by a few more pounds.
The second major change was my divorce. I had slowly become a person I was never meant to be. I was drowning in a sea of bitterness and anger and those waves threatened to take any air that possibly remained in my lungs. The decision to end my marriage was a monumental change in my existence, and after many failed attempts at fixing that relationship, I had to admit that it was beyond repair. I left the broken pieces behind and slowly began rebuilding my life and rediscovering the happy person I once was.
Both of those changes deserved the time spent to follow through appropriately and go through the proper stages. I may have over-thought both of them for a while, but in the end, I am where I need to be.
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Beautiful Tooie. From the heart.
Thanks Cathy!!
Congratulations on losing 50 pounds and keeping it off! You should be proud. Having worked in a domestic relations law firm for 18 years, I know how difficult divorce can be. It sounds like you’re in a good place now. I’m happy for you. 🙂
Thank you….life is definitely better now!
And they both sound like they were great changes, done right!
Thanks Guap….I sure do feel like myself again! 🙂
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These two major things have brought you to the place you are now – and I really like that place 😉 Kudos to you for losing 50 pounds and keeping it off (amazing and inspiring!) 😀
Thank you so much. I really do love the place I am now!! 😀
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Congrats on the 50lbs that is indeed a fantastic achievement. I personally have the willpower of a alcoholic in a brewery so whether I try the jump in all at once or the incremental method it is often doomed to failure.
I need to lose a little weight too, at least 28lb I would say, but I love food (and wine and spirits and chocolate and…) well you know what I mean… the sweet stuff like choc I could give up but my food uh uh, cant do it (this is home cooked recipes from scratch by the way, not salt laden ready meals)
Well then, you’re already ahead of the game. Home cooked meals with natural ingredients are the way to go. I didn’t really “diet”, I just stopped eating processed foods and the rest is history. I will never cut out the wine.
Thank you, you have given me hope :D… yeah I love cooking stuff up, I need a recipe books for sure, but I have plenty of those too lol.
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I like to rip it off like a band-aid. Divorce? Mine took seven days. I kid you not. We had a fight on a Friday. We looked at each other, calmly said, “This is over,” and nodded in agreement. The next Monday I went apartment hunting and she conjured a paralegal. Wednesday we signed the papers. On Friday I got the keys to my apartment and a judge made the thing final. Seven days.
Like you I’m all about minimizing the processed foods. I’m also running my diet like a band-aid, losing over 7% of total body weight in 28 days so far. I’m changing my relationship with food and plan to maintain a lot of those changes for the rest of my life. And I’m looking forward to wine.
Wow….seven days is impressive. Ours was fast-tracked as well and I’m glad it was over quickly.
Keep up the good work on the weight loss!! We can encourage each other (maybe wine will be involved as well)