Things that have been seen, cannot be unseen



Social media has been at the forefront of our communication for a while.   Perhaps I have just recently noticed, or perhaps I was blind to it before, but it seems the more social media is used now, the more it becomes misused.  I’ll admit I used to enjoy Facebook, but it has become less of an interest the more my eyes became privy to far too many personal issues being aired on the internet.

I am not, by any means, being hypocritical as I too have used this blog to vent some frustrations, but there are limits to what I will spew out into cyber space.  The rules of social conduct still guide my brain and do not allow me to cross the line of over-sharing information or being unjustifiably vindictive.

Before the ever-changing Facebook screen began to fade from my daily ritual,  I was one of hundreds to have my news feed littered with vulgarities and horribly personal comments as two people ended their relationship in a way that truly resembled most reality shows.  It was like watching a train wreck in slow motion – some of the things that were said back and forth were ruthless and unnecessary, but the two involved somehow felt it appropriate for those things to be shared with all of us.

It was an easy decision for me to avoid the written daggers that were being thrown with the force of an Olympian because I have no personal stake in whether that relationship thrives or dies a horrible death.  But words on the internet penetrate millions of eyes, and sadly, four of those eyes more than likely belong to her two children.  I know they have their own Facebook accounts and, unless the power of the magic eraser cleansed those Facebook walls before they saw them, they will have experienced something that never should have been aired in such a public forum in the first place.

I still use my Facebook account infrequently, as it is still a place that I can share this blog with my friends.  But that uncomfortable public display of a  genuinely personal issue made me rethink how much information and the nature of that material I am willing to share.

25 thoughts on “Things that have been seen, cannot be unseen

  1. This site is no exception, mind you.
    I see a lot of “facebook” updates lately. Not to mention “trolling”. A lot of that, too.
    I need a break.
    *having to run damage control of three of my paintings has me in a frenzy, as I come to the conclusion that I will need to fix them…and that’s going to be ok. 🙂 Ugh.

  2. I don’t put anything on Facebook without first considering what the world may think of it. Even though I have my privacy settings clamped down, it only takes one person to capture a screenshot and BAM! it’s gone viral. Eff that.

  3. After hearing about all those “Fascinating. But here’s what I had for breakfast” conversations, I have no regrets of having left fb.
    Blogging and twitter are more than enough for my social media needs.

  4. I agree Facebook has become the equivalent of the commuter car. Get a clue people, just because the windows are up doesn’t mean people can’t see in.

  5. I have quit three times. All it does is get me a flood of emails from family and close friends giving me shit. I have given up quitting and now pop in once a day to purposely annoy people (especially Vancouver Canuck fans). It is a tool to keep in touch with friends and family scattered around the globe. Twitter and my blog just don’t cut it for that purpose. The rest I could do without but can’t see myself unfriending a bunch of people just cause I dislike FB.

  6. I saw a comic the other day that said, “On second thought, I wouldn’t want the ability to read people’s minds. Have you seen Facebook?”

    The thing I enjoy worst about Facebook you already covered. The thing I like most about Facebook is sharing inconsequential funnies and deep thoughts with friends.

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