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Regrets, I’ve had a few
17 CommentsThere are always regrets in life – missed opportunities that weigh heavily on us the more we think about them. I’ve had my share of regrets, whether those regrets have been caused by my actions or perpetrated by my inaction. There is always a tremendous sense of “what if” at the core of our regrets and that is a force field that is better left unexplored.

I was recently presented with an opportunity that I did not want to regret not pursuing. I did what I had to do and saw it through without exemption and that exploration resulted in me giving notice at my current job and looking forward to venturing off on a new path. I have never been unhappy at my current job but the winds of change ruffled my hair and made me think about what life would be like in a new place. That thought was a bit intoxicating.
After weighing the regret of leaving my current job and the many co-workers I have come to think of as family against the opportunity for growth and forward movement with a new team of people, I took a deep breath and chose to follow those winds of change. That gust of wind caught my sails and propelled me in a direction that I could never have foreseen.
It is a daunting feeling closing the chapter on a life that is so familiar and ingrained in my day-to-day life. The people who I have come to lean and rely on will no longer be in my daily routine but I can only trust that I made the right decision for myself and know that I am following a trajectory I was meant to follow.
Life is too short to have too many regrets and this is one I did not want to have. I’m happy to be embarking on a new journey and encountering a new set of challenges and learning experiences. From the excitement I feel, I know I will not regret making the change and opening my life to a new realm of possibilities.
Have you ever missed an opportunity that you regret?
Think Twice Before You Post
18 CommentsSocial media has taken over the way we communicate with each other. When I was a child (and yes, this will make me seem old) we didn’t have cell phones to text every waking idea. Instead, we wrote letters – in long hand!! For those of you studying history it was called “cursive”. We had pen pals from around the world and when we wished to communicate with them we drafted well thought out letters, put a stamp on an envelope and sent it out across the void. It may have taken weeks, even months, to reach its destination but we also didn’t have to worry about how many other people would read, and potentially misinterpret, the message we conveyed.
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The ease of communication now is also dominating the amount of information that we share with others on the social media sites but there are many out there who don’t take the time to think of what they are posting before it’s out there….for ALL to see. We have such a need to interact with people but we don’t take the time to second guess the content of what we are sharing and who we are conceivably sharing it with.
Facebook and Twitter make publicizing our lives far too easy. With one click of a button, your latest thought, action or location can be sent into cyberspace and be laid at the feet of the millions of people with access to the “information highway”. What we don’t think about ahead of time is the fact that once that data has been shared it cannot be un-shared. You may think that by pressing delete on your keyboard that the material is no longer available, but think again. It has been data stamped and encrypted and is still recoverable.
There are many minds out there that are far more creative and light years beyond us in terms of technology that have unlimited access to those morsels of personal details that you felt the need to share. And they, in turn, may feel the need to resurrect that fragment of your life and make you vulnerable in a way you never thought possible. Innocent pictures of your “girls night out” may find themselves on websites with completely ulterior motives. Your potential new employer may, and most likely will, seek you out on Facebook to see if the information you have used to beef up your resume has any semblance of truth. They will also judge your character on the photos you have chosen to share with the world.
Choose your words and your images wisely. I am trying not to be hypocritical in this post as I am a humble slave to social media. This blog would not exist were it not for the ease of sharing thoughts and ideas across the vast blogosphere and sharing my posts through Facebook and Twitter. But I do give pause to the content of my words and status updates before I hit the publish button. Although I am free to write about any topic I choose, I also want my words to portray my character in a way that I feel truly represents the person I am and will leave no room for any of those words to come back and haunt me.
Don’t always trust the privacy settings to give you that sense of security. The only real security you can have is filtering the information you post in the first place. The postman only used to ring twice. Words that have been sent into cyberspace will ring forever.
Life everlasting – Trifextra post
17 CommentsHe felt lost. The charge he felt from living was altered over a century ago when fate tried to kill him for the fifth time. Eternal life was not all it was cracked up to be.
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Written for the Trifextra challenge.
- charge
- century
- lost
Shocking discoveries
15 CommentsI was sifting through my email folders at work today to thin out the bulking cyber drawers and make room for the onslaught of new information for the upcoming season. I amaze myself with the number of emails I find worthy of saving. Some are amusing and will get filed back into that vault of humor and some made the hair on the back of my neck stand up today.
In amongst the random emails in my personal folder were a few messages from a former guest regarding his overdue payment for his summer vacation. This conversation took place back in the autumn of 2011. His excuses became very creative when it came to explaining why we had not received payment – they bordered on comical, really. And then I came across one where he said he was going to “blow a gasket” if his office couldn’t get this sorted out. Normally an off-handed comment like that would not have even registered in the realm of my abnormal or even intimidating. But looking at this email now, and knowing the person that sent it, the threatening tone of that letter became overwhelmingly real.
Two short months after lengthy discussions and warnings that we would take this man to small claims court to get our money his name appeared before us in such a shocking way that I was speechless. His name was on the 6:00 pm news – he had been charged with the murder of his girlfriend. The two faces we had become so familiar with on our vacation property were now splashed all over the media and the complicated story began to unravel.
The financial indiscretion with us was only the tip of the iceberg and, as the investigation continued, his trail of lies and deceit became public knowledge. In a heated discussion about their financial situation, he lost control and she lost her life. He hid her body under one of the beds in the house and frantically called friends to say she had never returned home. Days later, the police arrived at his door for further interrogation and noticed the acrid smell of decomposition coming from the house.
I have deleted his emails. I don’t want to feel any connection to this horrible monster, nor do I want to be reminded of the heinous crime he committed to conceal his sordid past. May he get the justice he deserves and may she rest in peace.
The power of positive thinking
8 CommentsThe power of thought is amazing…..the more positive the thought, the more positive the result. Feeding your brain with affirming thoughts allows the mind to grow and flourish, while letting your brain gnaw on the bones of negativity could have devastating results.
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Our brain can only act and react to the energy we give to it. Unlike the information we feed into a computer, it cannot calculate results and comprehend a logical solution unless we give it the necessary tools to formulate the equation.
We need to learn how to harness the power of optimism and fuel our brains with a brazen amount of happiness and joy to achieve the desired result of success. And that success is not just a monetary gain. Success can be defined as happiness in the home, satisfaction on the job and general good health and well-being.
Negativity and stress go hand in hand. We have all been told at one time or another to “think positive” – but do we ever really stop to absorb the meaning of those two words. If we take the time to step back and see the silver lining that dark, ominous cloud no longer holds as much power as it once did.
Positive thinking can change not only your attitude but your demeanor, how you represent yourself and how you physically carry yourself as well. You can immediately spot a confident person in their stride, shoulders back, chin up, and know that there are no negative thoughts coursing through their mind.
A positive attitude breeds hope that things will be better. We teach children at a young age to turn that frown upside down. What we are embedding in their young minds is that a positive attitude will make them feel better. So why not heed the advice we bestow on the younger generation who may not fully interpret what we are saying?
Too often we let ourselves be consumed by the obstacles life throws into our path. We feel swallowed in the churning sea of existence. But we have the power to make every day a day to look forward to by giving ourselves the choice to be happy. Life may not always be exactly the way we intended it to be but focus on the good things and the rest will fall into place. Peter Pan could make himself fly by thinking his happy thoughts. Let yourself feel weightless by thinking those positive thoughts and put on a happy face.
Falling behind
16 CommentsWith the events surrounding my mother over the last two weeks, I have been falling behind in reading many of your posts. Thankfully I had many posts written and have been sweeping the dust from those and posting as often as I can.
I have over 1400 emails, most of them notifications of your posts or your comments and I will do my best to get caught up as soon as I can. I do wish to thank you all for your reading support and your kind words about my mom. We are still in limbo and are unsure where to go from here but we still maintain as much hope as possible for a good outcome.
I will try to take some time for myself and get back into reading your words that I have come to love. I do have one light in the tunnel – my magazine article will be published May 1st. I will try to link to it so I can share it with the blogging world.
Thank you again for being a part of a group that I have come to think of as friends.
Never Give Up – Trifecta Post
8 CommentsThe alchemy of her feelings had changed drastically and she did not know why. She had felt rage, had felt cheated out of a big part of her life, but now felt nothing but a growing sense of peace and understanding. The illness had finally caught up with her and she could no longer pretend everything was going to be alright. When her time eventually did come, she could face her family with honesty and say she led a good life. She would never give up but she now had to face the new reality of her limitations. With fire in her eyes, she was determined to outlive them all, just for spite.
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This post was written for the Trifecta challenge and is written for my mom who is currently in hospital. I hope she beats the odds and proves us all wrong.
ALCHEMY (noun)
- Your response must be between 33 and 333 words.
- You must use the 3rd definition of the given word in your post.
- The word itself needs to be included in your response.
- You may not use a variation of the word; it needs to be exactly as stated above.
- Only one entry per writer.
- If you know your post does not meet the requirements of the challenge, please leave your link in the comments section, not in the linkz.
- Trifecta is open to everyone. Please join us.
Some walks you have to take alone
13 CommentsWhether it is a walk of pride or the walk of shame, some walks you have to take alone. Embracing your successes or facing up to the repercussions of decisions you have made is an individual journey. Only you can face the truth and the consequences that result from something you have been a part of – good or bad.
And perhaps that walk alone provides you the time and solitude you need to focus on the decisions that have been made previously or have yet to be made in your life. Nobody can choose your path or tell you which fork in the road you must follow. That is a conscious choice that you must decide for yourself. Forging ahead into that journey, on your own, gives you the focus you need to gather the insight into which path you will follow. Along the way, you select the people with whom you want to participate in that pilgrimage.
Some that you have chosen to accompany you on your journey may agree with your direction and some may deviate from the road that lies before you. Perhaps they were only meant to keep you company for a short distance. Others will follow you into the abyss, knowing that the course you have plotted is one akin to a path that they have chosen as well.
Regardless of how many people are willing to follow that road with you, there will always be some walks you have to take unassisted. Some roads are meant to be navigated by you and you alone. There will always be friends at the end of that road – to wipe your brow and perhaps give you a pat on the back for reaching the end of your quest unscathed, but the passage itself is a solitary journey.
Forge ahead on that secluded route. Walk strong with your head held high. Delve deep into the reasons that you have come to this particular fork in the road, and walk alone. But walk alone knowing that at the end of your journey, you have rewarded yourself with the reclusive time needed to dig deep into what you need for yourself to achieve your ultimate goal. Your journey never ends. It only begins with the next step.
Stressing the “un’s”
12 CommentsLife is a mixed bag. Stress is inevitable, but more than likely comes from things that begin with “un”. Things that are unpredictable, uncontrollable, unfamiliar or unseen cause us undue pressure.
We become very uncomfortable and somewhat unsettled forging ahead into the unknown feeling unprepared. We may lack the understanding needed to avoid feeling unsure.
Life can be unfair. Illness can be unforgiving and waiting can be unbearable. The “un’s” hover relentlessly and we are unable to regain a sense of control.
I am struggling to beat those “un’s” into submission, but they are unrelenting and refuse to allow the knots of their hold to be undone.
I, however, am unwilling to admit defeat. That is unacceptable.


