(image credit: Bill Watterson)
I am a tomboy. I always have been and I’m sure, short of a lobotomy, I always will be. I grew up with a brother four years my senior and I idolized him. I wore his clothes, I brushed my hair in the same horrific fashion that he did (pictures from the 70’s are NEVER flattering!!) and I customized my mannerisms to be as close to his as possible. His friends became my friends.
During those formidable years as a young girl growing into adolescence I was always more comfortable around boys. I never felt the inkling to have tea parties – I always wanted to be rough-housing and tossing the pigskin with the guys. It was where I felt most comfortable and, to this day, it still is where I find my true self. Don’t misunderstand, I do enjoy putting on a dress and feeling “pretty” every now and then but if I had my choice I would be shroud in a football jersey, a baseball cap and a comfy pair of jeans playing poker in a room full of dudes. That to me is home.
I have never thought of my platonic friendship with the opposite sex to be an oddity. I have always been “one of the guys”. It’s where I feel like I fit in. The male friends I have had throughout my life have never made me feel like an outsider. I am in NO way discounting the many women in my life that I have the good fortune call friends. There is an inherent connection with those strong and vivacious women that I hold dear to my heart and there is no comparison to the depth of friendship I have with them. Women will always have a strong bond with their female friends, as will men with their male friends. The point of this post is to celebrate the friendships between men and women.
Television and movies have only perpetuated the impossibility of men and women just being friends by turning every story line into an eventual romance. Modern day relationships based in reality can dispel that myth rather quickly. Platonic love does exist between men and women and true friends are hard to come by. So why should our friendships be defined by our gender? Friendship isn’t about body parts. It is about finding people also roaming on this planet who share a common thread. They have the same likes and dislikes and understand how you work.
The archaic history of male and female relationships was based on a man and woman only relating to each other in their matrimonial home. Times have changed. Men and women can be friends….and very good friends. Don’t let other’s interject their opinions into your friendships. Break down the barriers, chisel through the ancient beliefs and regardless of the x or y, keep your friends close!
I remember having a very similar talk with a guy friend of mine back in high school and he was very much taking “Harry’s” stance. I shut him up quickly when I pointed out he and I were only friends and neither were interested in anything more. 🙂 Great post!
Thanks – glad I’m not the only one!!
I don’t know. It seems that the cliche of platonic friendships failing because one person or the other developing feelings has seemed to be true.
Maybe I’m one of the lucky few. Sure I’ve had some guy friends and there has been more to it – but I have many guys I hang out with and there is nothing more than friendship on both sides.
Wait, you mean there’s not romance at the end of this road?? I’m out…
Lol – never say never!! 😛
The older you get the easier it gets. if I could talk to my adolescent self he would laugh uproariously at your post.
Living in a small country town where there’s about ten males to every female I have many lovely male friends. I totally get this post and love my ‘buddies’! 😀
Me too! 🙂