I have a friend, not the imaginary kind that you invent to talk about yourself, but a real friend who has recently begun dipping her toes back into the dating pool after leaving a bad relationship. Trust me, if I were talking about myself I would be splashing the headlines of this blog with the water from that pool.
Like all swimmers, she has been testing out different areas of the dating pool, attempting alternate swimming strokes to see which swim is most comfortable for her. Recently the seemingly Olympic sized swimming pool shrunk down into an inflatable pool you would find on any front lawn and a few worlds collided in the process.
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When you live in a small town, anonymity and dating do not go hand in hand. Even if you find a secluded spot to spend some time getting to know each other, inevitably someone you know will be a witness to that moment and your secret rendezvous is no longer a secret.
She has been casually dating a few men sporadically and had accepted an offer to go out for drinks from a new potential suitor. Being the aforementioned small town, we really have only one restaurant / bar that is a desired spot to take a date. They decided to begin with a cocktail on the outside deck, shades on, and enjoy the view of the water but her view suddenly shifted to one of her other swimming partners on the deck with a new date of his own. The waters may have churned momentarily but her date was moved indoors for dinner and avoided any further discomfort.
On the way to the table she noticed a familiar face seated at the bar. Another swimmer from her dating pool was deeply ensconced in a conversation on a date of his own as well. Worlds collided again and the size of the dating pool had just become a Dixie cup! Like mature adults, each of them went on with their dates never revealing that anything was strange about the three of them being in the same restaurant, each on separate dates.
Being in the dating pool is a challenge. You can tread water for great lengths of time before encountering another swimmer or the pool can immediately be inundated with other swimmers also testing the waters. There is no judgement, only curiosity. There are no rules only requests for safety and respecting the others swimming space. I admire her for being in that pool and can only hope she will find the one swimmer that will match her speed and agility throughout her life!