“It takes a long time to grow an old friend.” ~ John Leonard
There is something inherently great about spending time with someone who just gets you. You never feel the need to have to defend your point of view and you feel comfortable sharing your deepest personal feelings, your laughter and your tears without any fear of judgement.
I am deeply blessed to have many of those friends in my life. There are some who I see regularly, some who are separated from me by provinces, there are some out of touch by circumstance and there is one in particular who has mysteriously reappeared after we let decades slip past. But, in each case, we have been able to pick up where we left off and the glue that binds our relationship remains intact.
Friendships like these have sustainability like the house plants you had in your dorm room during college or university. They may have been neglected and not received the water required to grow, but somehow, miraculously, they continued to thrive and flourish although they were not given the consideration they could have received had they been tended to daily.
True friendships will continue to grow and spread their roots deeper into the soil of the relationship. And whether they are watered frequently or left for weeks at a time to fend for themselves, good friendships will sustain themselves during the lonely times and blossom during the moments they are nurtured.
It does take a long time to grow an old friend but it is certainly time well spent.