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Making the right things different
8 Comments“We are not the same persons this year as last; nor are those we love. It is a happy chance if we, changing, continue to love the changed person.” ~ W. Somerset Maugham
I love stories of couples who have been together for decades, who celebrate year after year together and still maintain that bond of love and friendship. My grandparents had it, my parents had it and my brother has it. I have not been able to weather that change with as much success as they have but that truth does not make me sad.
The most basic definition of change is to make something different. That is how the dictionary categorizes change and I have been through many circumstances in my life that have caused me to become different. Sadly, or perhaps not, I was unable to continue relationships with certain loves because I became a changed person. I had grown from experience, I had aged from knowledge and I had matured from the lessons of my reality.
I am, decidedly, not the same person this year as last. There is an underlying intensity to me that I had never previously possessed. There is a confidence, a slow-burning belief in myself, that is gradually being fueled by the understanding of my recently discovered strengths. And that person did not exist while I was in those past relationships. That person slowly transformed from chrysalis to butterfly, evolved from the person I used to be, and changed into the person I am now.
Certainly it would be a happy coincidence if we are fortunate enough to mature together and to be able to love that changed person in our lives and grow in the same direction. But it would no fault of either person if that change took different trajectories.
People change. Ideals change. Love changes. Our job is to decide whether we, being the person we are now, are still able to love that changed person or whether we need to make a change for ourselves.
An icy heart
21 CommentsThe dagger hung from my eaves and I knew I would escape tonight. He would not be able to stop me. I plunged the icicle into his heart with every ounce of desired freedom. It will melt long before they find him.
The sense of sensibility
11 CommentsThe Reverie posted an interesting challenge in honor of Jane Austen. We are given 11 words (in true Austen style) and asked to write a poem with at least 7 of them. It got in 10. Check out the challenge and give it a try.
To acknowledge a want,
to trust in a wish,
evokes a certain wonder.
What good fortune it would be,
to wear our pride without prejudice,
to yearn, not for possessions
but for the good in man.
A single hope,
a solemn wish
to bring peace
to the world.
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It was too late to even ask
18 CommentsHe asked for my forgiveness
and in my continuing silence
I found an abundance of long-buried strength.
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Daunted by the conviction of my strength,
and with no more interest in asking for my forgiveness,
he returned my stare with his silence.
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There was nothing golden about our silence.
But in that quiet, there was no weakness in my strength.
And because of that, never will he receive my forgiveness.
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Forgiveness should never be assumed. His feeble request was met by deserved silence and fueled by my inner strength.
My first ever attempt at a Tritina for YeahWrite.Me
No more sleeps ’til freedom
8 CommentsThe saloon doors met in the middle several times before slowing to a close. Deke extinguished exterior lights before leaving for home. His fluffy robe and slippers waited just where he had left them. The Dude Ranch had closed for another season.
Party on Weight! Party on Girth!
18 CommentsI am not skinny. I have never touted the pretense that I ever was skinny and by no means do I think I ever will be skinny. I am not built that way and, after my many trips around the sun on this planet, I have come to accept that and be okay with it. It’s who I am and I happily embrace who I am. I have many other attributes I am proud of without having to slip into size zero pants. And I am hoping I will remain this secure when the newest clothing lines are introduced and size “minus-ten” becomes the newest “in thing”.
But that is not saying that I have not made valiant attempts to become healthier by decreasing the caloric sums that enter my digestive system. I am not a victim of fad diets. I merely try to cook and eat whole, natural foods that consist of ingredients I can pronounce. Chicken is a very easy item to cook with because it contains, well, chicken. I try to avoid fast-food at all costs and hope the only processed foods I eat are ones I have processed myself so I can easily articulate the components of the nutrition that I am consuming.
In the process of communicating with my fat cells, the message was clearly not concise enough for them to understand – when I lose you, I don’t want you to come back and bring your friends! “Weight” and “Girth” have been partying like rock stars in the Aurora, Illinois basement of my viscera and it’s time to pull the plug on the amp and shut this party down.
When I sat down and had a chat with those fat cells and told them the plan, I could swear I heard Mike Myers voices saying, “No Whey!” Yes, Mike, “Whey…..because I’ve been told it’s good for you!”
How will you remember them?
2 CommentsUndoubtedly, you’ve seen them. The men and the women of the Royal Canadian Legion Branches have been doing their duty, standing at local businesses with their trays of poppies, collecting donations. I see them every year. I donate several times every year and I am proud to don my poppy to show my support.
But Friday morning, November 6th, 2015, will stand out in my memory as the day I was truly humbled and I knew precisely what I would be thinking during my moment of silence on Remembrance Day.
My friend Karen was enveloped by her navy blazer, her hair neatly braided, and a bright red poppy radiated from the lapel on her jacket. But that bright poppy was no match for her vibrant smile as she stood in the rain with her tray of poppies strung proudly around her neck. When I asked her why she was standing in the rain as opposed to being under the shelter of the covered entrance to the store, she paused briefly, looking into the sky while summoning her response. When she replied, it stopped me in my tracks and hit me right in the heart. She said, “I don’t know. They stood out there for us so the least I can do is stand out here for them.”.
For a few seconds, I was frozen in my spot. I smiled at her and continued into the store to buy my morning paper. I reflected on what she had said to me and, once out of the store, I stopped and chatted with her in the rain some more while I donated the rest of my change.
The thought of what she said still brings a tear to my eye every time I recall her voice saying that brief but overwhelmingly gracious line. That sentence was profound. One simple line put Remembrance Day back into perspective for me.
So easily at 11:00 am on the 11th day of the 11th month, we all take a moment to share silence to remember the fallen, praise the heroes and thank those still serving to protect our basic rights and our freedom. But how much do we think about what those soldiers really endured to fight for us? How deeply will we let our brain delve into those dark places to be able to scratch the surface of the atrocities the fighters of those World Wars, and the many conflicts since, have been made to bear?
As the previous generations fall into the past and subsequently we skip quickly ahead to the next epoch of humanity, how many stories of our fallen ancestors will continue to be shared? My maternal grandfather died of a heart attack long before I was born. He served and I know so little about his sacrifices for our family and our country. His stories of bravery seem to be tucked away with his photographs and his absence.
Hearing Karen’s thoughtful reasoning behind standing in the rain with her tray of poppies made me want to research the time my grandfather spent serving his country. I want to feel that connection on Remembrance Day and I want to share that legacy with my nephews so their generation will understand what it means to show courage in the face of adversity, so they will appreciate what it means to sacrifice yourself for the greater good and how bravery is defined by doing something you believe in, no matter what the outcome.
To all of the men and women who are currently serving, to all of those who have served in the past and to those who are finally enjoying the peace they fought so diligently to preserve, I salute you and I thank you. And at 11:00 am on the 11th day of the 11th month, I shall bow my head and take a moment to truly appreciate everything I have because all of you made it possible for me to have those things.












